I’m not sure where this phrase actually originated, but
somebody somewhere once called Valentine’s Day “Singleness Awareness Day” (or
SAD, get it?) and the term stuck. Why is
it given this designation? As a single,
I can answer that from firsthand experience: Valentine’s Day, as our culture celebrates it, is a day that highlights romantic love. Thus, because
I’m not in a romantic relationship right now, as Valentine’s Day quickly approaches, it makes me aware of my own singleness.
And, yes, to be honest with you, if I’m not vigilant in my thinking and
in my attitude, contemplating a Valentine’s Day without a significant other can
definitely make me sad. I suspect that many
other men and women without a Valentine this year could join me in this
declaration.
But even those who are in committed relationships can
find Valentine’s Day very frustrating.
Why? Well, the pressure is on to
provide your significant other with an incredible day of expressions of love
and romance. What I mean is there is an
undeniable expectation to show your special one just how much they mean to you
on Valentine’s Day, and if you fail to do so, it can easily lead to having the holiday
ruined for both of you. (Incidentally,
let me add this before moving on: don’t succumb to the pressure of needing to
have “the perfect Valentine’s Day” because this is much too high a standard. If you have this mindset, you effectively set yourself up for disappointment. Enjoy and appreciate whatever you get, but
don’t expect perfection. One other thing: please remember to express acts of love and romance to each other on other days as well, not just on
Valentine’s Day).
I chased a few rabbit trails for a moment
there, but the main point I’m trying to make is the cultural
expectations for Valentine’s Day are immense.
Whether you have a Valentine this year or not, this holiday can easily
set you up for misery, sadness, and depression, if you let it. You say, “Kevin, you’ve painted quite a bleak
picture so far today. What do you
propose as an alternative?”
I submit that Valentine’s Day shouldn’t just be a celebration of the fact that you are in a romantic relationship. Valentine’s
Day should be more than that. It should be
a celebration of all the love you experience in your life. For example, the love a parent has for a
child. Or the love a brother or sister
has for their siblings. How about this
one? How about celebrating the
reciprocal love you have with your friends?
And finally, yes, this would certainly include the love between a
boyfriend/girlfriend or husband and wife as well (if applicable).
Furthermore (and most importantly as I see it), I think Valentine’s
Day is also an excellent opportunity for us to stop and be reminded afresh that
the God of the universe has a pure, fervent, sincere love for all of humanity. “For God so loved the world,” Jesus states in
a familiar passage from John 3, “that he gave his only Son that whoever
believes in him should not perish but have eternal life” (verse 16). 1 John 3:16 tells us, “This is how we know
love: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.”
Romans 5:8: “but God shows his love for us in that while we were still
sinners Christ died for us.” This
Valentine’s Day season take some time to ponder God’s love for you as well. Contemplate how He displayed the most
incredible act of love for you when He died on a wooden cross.
Kevin
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