Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! Some of you might think that you can’t
celebrate Valentine’s Day because you are not in a romantic relationship; I beg
to differ. The truth is anyone can
celebrate Valentine’s Day. I say this
because Valentine’s Day is a holiday that is all about elevating the virtue of
love.
Let me quickly clarify something lest I’m
misunderstood. When I speak of love, I
am speaking of a selfless, giving love.
Our culture today has blurred the lines between what real love is and
what lust is. For instance, you watch a
TV sitcom today, or a movie or something like that, and you see that a man and
woman meet for the very first time, and in the very next scene (or at least
very soon in the relationship) they are in bed together having indulged in a
carnal sexual experience. I submit to
you that this wasn’t a love scene as many would label it; this was simply what
I’m going to call a lust scene. What’s
the difference? The late preacher, Dr.
Adrian Rogers once put it this way: “love wants to give; lust wants to get.”
The Bible says, “This is how we know what love is: Jesus
Christ laid down his life for us” (1 John 3:16). John is saying, “Do you want an example of
real love? Look at what Jesus did on the
cross for you and me.” In other words,
just as Christ’s substitutionary death on the cross was out of nothing but pure
love for us, we show love by sacrifice, unselfishness, and consideration for
others wellbeing.
Therefore, let’s go back to my example of the man and
woman that has just met. The couple
desires sex, but real love is patient (1 Corinthians 13:4). Real love is willing to wait. Yes, I’m certainly saying that singles
shouldn’t have sex until marriage as God says in His Word (see Hebrews 13:4),
but I’m also saying that this applies to a married couple. At times, your spouse may not desire sex. For example, it's become a joke, but "not tonight, honey, I have a headache" is actually a legitimate reason for a married couple not to have sex. Real love says, “I’m going to
choose to put your needs ahead of my own.”
Kevin
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